The End of an Era

Four years ago at this time I was driving around The Triangle in my Mini Cooper drumming up business for my new diaper service. I had a handful of  customers and and enjoyed my days of visiting new mamas. The diaper service was my gateway to affording to follow my dreams of being a Doula. I knew that it would take years to build my experience and reputation, so my income would have to come from elsewhere while I worked on my craft.

Within months, our business grew to levels we hadn't anticipated. The Mini Cooper was no longer a viable option and we searched for a home to launder our thousands of diapers. After an exhaustive search, we put down roots in Grace Park. Our humble little space was born.

Throughout this time, I began serving women free of charge in exchange for evaluations and suggestions on how I could better my skills as a Doula. I am so thankful to these Families for allowing a new Doula to enter their sacred space and attend the most intimate of moments. Because of them, I knew I was on the right path.

As I went from home to home delivering diapers, I was invited in, and many times a two hour diaper run would take an entire day! These New Moms craved outside stimulation, and sometimes I was their only adult conversation for the entire day. Something had to be done I thought.We needed a community.

Now let me honest, this was not entirely altruistic. I knew that in the near future I'd be having my own children, and I knew what kind of support I wanted and whom I wanted to be surrounded by. So, I developed The Diapering Doula boutique- which was less of a boutique, and more of a meeting space for Mothers.

Our weekly New Moms groups, hosted by Tina Sherman, swelled to capacity. We brought LLL into the fold, as well as a number of other non profits. The space became a soft place to land for many women, and village grew.

As the years went by, I became more confident as a Doula. I credit many women for this transformation. Jessica Altemara fielding calls from me in the wee hours of the morning when I struggled on how to best support a stalled labor. Jamie Jackson kindly welcomed me into her Hypnobabies classes so that I could learn about her education model. Ann Tumblin was a constant support, and still is, a wonderful mentor. Julie McBurney, aside from just being a fabulous friend, shared her knowledge of Reiki with me. Erin Luben guided me in writing a dynamic Lamaze curriculum. Truly, the list is endless. The seasoned Doulas of the Triangle Community are what helped me become the Doula I am today.

Then it was my turn! I was pregnant! I had my very own village already set up, and I have to say, that that is the only reason I was sane at all. My friends Jennifer and Milli talked me through hyperemesis, and I could have never had the blissful postpartum I had without the love and generocity of Samantha Dunn who ran my business whilst I enjoyed my new family.

While high on postpartum hormones, I returned to work and had extraordinary expectations for myself. The boutique was busy, the diaper service better than ever, and I finally had street cred as a Doula with the new baby I had fiercely birthed. I found great pride in breastfeeding and my passion for supporting other nursing moms was afire. We soon began having milk drives, and to date, we have rehomed over 6,000 oz of milk to babies in need!

Then... Cora became mobile. Oy Vey! There was just no getting around the fact that I couldn't have it all... at least all at once. My husband and I sat down and decided that our priorities lay with me being with Cora and so our boutique was closed. The diaper service marched on.

In April of last year, we opened The Family Nest, a consortium of women-owned businesses dedicated to the well being of Triangle Families. I began attending births after a years hiatus, and started teaching childbirth guidance programs. The Family Nest had good intentions of serving others, and it served its purpose for burgeoning businesses, but it proved to be difficult to maintain, so it's season ended this Spring.

Last year I decided to spend more time focusing on lactation support. After having attended many births, and having one myself that didn't go as planned, I realized something: though birth is at times unpredictable, for the majority of Mothers, breastfeeding can be a success. Breastfeeding offers a sense of control (to a point) and can heal old wounds and birth trauma. Nursing is natural, yes, but it's a learned behavior, and we are far removed from the days that we sat at the knees of our breastfeeding sisters and aunts and learned from them.

I began implementing longer and longer breastfeeding sessions into my childbirth classes, to the point that was teaching three hour courses. It was a sign. This winter I earned my CLC thanks to many donations from friends and family, and I hope to sit for the IBCLC exam in the future.

The diaper service has always been a great constant throughout this process. I am very grateful to the families that we have served. It is with a mixture of trepidation and excitement that I am announcing at we are no longer accepting new clients and are allowing our current customers to expire.

I have a great hope that someone will step forward so that I may pass the torch. This business has huge potential and is perfect for a family who needs flexibility. Should we not rehome the service, we will allow its season to end gracefully and with excellent service to our customers.

Thank you for allowing my family to flourish. Thank you for supporting me as I found my way as a Doula. I am sucessful because of this community, and I will continue to serve birthing Mothers and follow my passion for childbirth education and lactation support.